Who Are You?

If you truly want to figure out Who You Are, you will begin by thinking of the word TEAM.

Team personality traits:

Top Gun – Extrovert- motivated and ready to win.  No nonsense.

Engager-Also extroverted, social leaders and action takers.  Self confident. Detail oriented.

Accommodater-Introverts but desire to be liked.  Good planners, sensitive, loyal and dependable.

Meticulous-Introverts.  Aim for quality and Consistency.  Like to work alone.  Absorb information.   Logical and Detail Oriented.

Begin by learning which one of these personality types is more like you, it will help you determine who you are.  What are your likes and dislikes?  What do you want to achieve in life?

“If you want to be original just try being yourself, because God has never made two people exactly alike.”–Bernard Meltzer

“I feel that the simplicity of life is just being yourself.”–Bobby Brown

The simple fact is that – YOU ARE ALREADY PERFECT! You just have to learn your personality traits and work with them.  We each may have a little of each of these personality traits.  However,  which one you are you most comfortable with!  Determine what you are good at.

All of nature, or existence, or reality, or whatever you prefer to call it, is already perfect.

There is nothing outside of yourself that you need to find to complete you. You are already complete.

“Being yourself is one of the greatest things you can possibly do. Being true to yourself.”–Jann Wenner

Everything you need to “be you” is already within you.  It is your responsibility to determine and release your assets or talents.  You are perfect within yourself.  You just have to learn Who You Are really.

A rock is a rock. It doesn’t try to be anything other than itself. It does not look elsewhere for its identity. It just is a rock, and it’s perfect.

A tree does not try to be something it’s not. It’s a tree. And it spends its time just being a tree.  Without struggle, it is what it is- perfect.

If you were meant to be something or someone else, then you would be.

“Really rejoice in being yourself. Have your own drumbeat.”–Kim Cattrall

So why don’t you feel perfect? Why are you not happy? Why are you looking outside of yourself for that something else which will complete you?

These things are just your external environment. And if you wish to change them, you can certainly do it. The circumstances you live with now are a result of your choices thus far, and it is possible for  you to create a new life for the future by choosing to make changes in your life, and taking appropriate action.

If that is your desire, you can change your finances. You can change your career. You can improve your relationships. And making these changes will certainly make your life different.

Personal development and growth does not improve you. It simply expands your awareness of the truth- that you are already perfect.  God created you and all He creates is perfect in itself.  We must realize, though, that life is a training ground where we are to learn and increase daily.

Until you recognize this fact, you will continue in your suffering.

Happiness cannot be found outside you. Happiness comes from within, when you give up the illusion, and just love yourself unconditionally.

So! How about no more thinking, “I should be this…”, or “I should have that.” How about thinking, “I am exactly who I am, and no-one can do a more perfect job at it than me.”

“Don’t try to be like me. Try to be like yourself. Try to be very good at being yourself.”–Josh Groban

Learn to be happy being who you are.  Remember to be completely happy, you must learn to look beyond your talents and your likes.  Be your natural self.  Know who you are!

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Happiness: Mind over Matter

Happiness is the state of being happy, therefore, it is mind over matter because you have to make a “decision” to be happy no matter what your circumstance.

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” –Dalai Lama

“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” –Abraham Lincoln

Even though you could be infinitely happy by just enjoying nature, family and all the human-made things, there are still millions of people who are unhappy. When you look at the developed countries  there tends to be the very fortunate circumstance of having both God-given and man-made things.  Even so, the majority of the people are still unhappy.

Yet again, in the under developed countries, where for millions, there is a real scarcity of even basic needs, yet the people seem to be happy. There are even some people who are engaged in difficult tasks, warfare, or even incarcerated in prisons, and yet they are still happy!

“Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits.” –Thomas Jefferson

Happiness is not realized by the mere availability and abundance of God given and human-made things. There is something else which should be right to be happy. Of course, it is our mind that must have right attitude  and capacity to be happy.

Milton in Paradise Lost says,

‘The mind is its own place, and in itself
Can make a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven.’

Various examples of us how the mind over matter can and will influence our body:

• Pavlov’s dog starts salivating at the sound of the bell without any food in sight.
• If we are tense we often get headache, backache, and spondylitis, etc.
• Heart attacks are directly linked to worry and tension.
• The Right mental attitude helps in curing many bodily maladies.
• Self-talk, motivation, and positive attitude we can become happy and successful.
• Hypnosis one can have command over another person’s mind and body.
• Meditation can help with having a healthy body and extra sensory abilities.

“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.” –Dale Carnegie

The Mind has extra-ordinary powers and as far as happiness is concerned,  it has the ultimate power. We should, therefore, have a positive attitude towards life. Instead of concentrating on the bad things in life and people, we should always concentrate on the redeeming features in them.

It is important not to keep on thinking about past failures and bad experiences,  but be encouraged by your past success and good experiences. Similarly, we should not be unduly anxious about the future as our anxiety is not going to have a positive effect, but we should plan and work hard for the future.

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Happiness: A state of mind!

Happiness is a state of mind.  It is an attitude chosen by your inner being, or a state of well being.

“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.”–Dale Carnegie

Happiness comes from within. It is the inner contentment which survives the roller coaster ride of life which has its roots deep within our being. The source of happiness comes from finding and embracing who we are as a person, and living a life of purpose.

It is important that we find Happiness and Peace in every aspect of our life:

a.  Physical

b.  Mental

c.  Emotional

d.  Spiritual

In order to receive a sense of completion in life,  it’s important that we discover acceptance, purpose as well as peace in all of these areas. If we neglect any one of these areas, we will experience a sense of emptiness and feel that something is missing.

There are many people who feel that happiness is indeed an elusive butterfly in the garden of life.  If you can imagine a young child outside playing in the garden on a warm summer day who sees a beautiful butterfly flitting from flower to flower. With eyes of wonder the child will want to see this butterfly up close, catch it and hold it in their hands.

As the child moves towards the flower where the butterfly is resting they will reach out to catch it in their hand, with their arms out stretched,  and just within reach, the butterfly moves to another flower. Undeterred the child follows the butterfly to the next flower, and then the next, but the butterfly always stays just out of reach.

“Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”–Benjamin Disraeli

Even as adults, happiness can seem just like that butterfly for the child, always just out of reach. It can become almost an obsession and the words “if only…” can become an increasingly large part of our thoughts and vocabulary.

– If only I had more money I would be happy.

– If only I was in a great relationship I would be happy.

– If only I could have a different job……….and the list goes on.

Sometimes even if we achieve one of our “if only “desires, the happiness we seek will, in fact, still be just out of our reach.

Happiness – INNER CONTENTMENT:

The truth is this:

“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”  becomes your focus and perception. If this becomes your focus, you will find that dissatisfaction and unhappiness will increasingly keep growing in your life and experience.

If there is a form of unhappiness within, you will not be completely satisfied by external events or circumstances.  In order to find happiness in life, you must first be at peace with your internal self. There will be external events and circumstances which can bring you happiness in the moment, but they often will not have an lasting effect on your inner self.

Life experiences brings both a mixture of good and bad circumstances to everyone.  If you choose to rely on life’s experiences for your source of happiness this would mean living life on a constant emotional roller coaster ride.

Spend some time in quiet reflection.  Find out if you are neglecting one of the four important parts of “who you are”and experiencing a sense of emptiness within?

When you learn to discover, embrace and accept your uniqueness and purpose, the more you will begin to experience the butterfly of happiness alighting your shoulder.

Happiness comes from within:  ”Be still and know!”  Reflect and Discover!

“Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.”–Eleanor Roosevelt

Strive to keep the right state of mind so that you can release your happiness!

Replace error with Truth, anger with Peace, hate with Love, sadness with Joy, and despair with Hope.

“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”–Abraham Lincoln

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”–Epictetus

The real truth about Happiness is that you can have it.  You don’t have to wait.  You don’t have to hesitate.  Create your own happiness with pleasurable thoughts, a decisive positive attitude, determination and inner action.

Believe you are Happy.

Receive Happy Thoughts.

Create your own Happiness.

Even in dark times, you can create a Happy mindset.  Don’t Worry!  Be Happy!

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Angela Valadez
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