Anger has no purpose at all. The problem with getting angry is that there is only a slim chance that it might solve the problem, but a much greater chance it’ll create new ones.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”–Mark Twain
Anger is really us losing our self- control, and when we lose self-control, bad things usually happen.
In the home it can mean a damaged relationship. Whereas, in public, it can mean a confrontation with a stranger. In the workplace, it can mean getting fired or skipped over for promotion.
“Anger itself does more harm than the condition that caused it.” –Samaria Maxamus
If you can’t remember that, then try this: Anger is only 1 step away from danger!
The truth is: Most of us can look and act pretty foolishly when we’re angry, which usually leads us into saying and doing things we’ll later regret.
“Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.”–Albert Einstein
“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”–Ambrose Bierce
Getting angry is a lot like being drunk, the intoxicated person is the only one who doesn’t realize he has a problem.
What makes anger so dangerous is the fact that it can occur so quickly and we've lost control before we even realize it. The only way to minimize the damage is to gain back self-control.
In order for us to be able begin to diminish our anger, we will first have to understand what caused the anger in the first place.
There is really only one reason why we get angry and that is because someone didn’t act the way we wanted them to, or things didn’t go our way.
Anger is not an action; but how we respond to another’s action. Getting angry is letting someone else control you.
When was the last time something good came out of you getting angry? Can you remember one?
“Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.”–Benjamin Franklin
If you feel anger rising on the inside of you. Stop! Take a breath and answer these three questions:
1. Is winning this argument really worth ruining the relationship?
2. How important will this be a year from now?
3. A month from now? A day or even an hour from now?
The instant you take back your self-control you’ll lose the anger. Never, ever, allow someone else control how you feel.
Who really suffers when you get anger?
“Holding on to anger is like holding on to a red-hot coal, you’re the only one who’s going to get burned.” –Buddha
Why is it that when we hurt ourselves physically we learn not to do it again, but, when we hurt ourselves emotionally we repeat the same action over and over? No one benefits from anger.
“When anger rises, think of the consequences.”–Confucius
The best way to end an argument is to be silent. It takes two to have an argument. Be the bigger person. That’s not admitting fault, it’s controlling the anger. Reinstate your self-control. Understand that, even if you win the argument, you still won’t be able to enjoy the present if you’re still angry about the past.
“When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.”–Thomas Jefferson
“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.”–Ralph Waldo Emerson
Remember that Anger Has No Purpose in your life. The Bible says, “to be angry, but sin not.” Yes, we will get angry, but we have self-control. We have the ability to be slow to speak, which means, think before you speak. Let go and let God. Vengeance is mine, says the Lord. He will repay, we don’t have to. Our job is to learn from the experience, practice self-control and learn to love even the unlovable, even if it’s from a distance.
Angela Valadez
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